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Subject :Proposal? Should you really be considering it?.. 05-30-2009 16:06

thenetimp

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I'm not writing this to rain on your parade. I am trying real hard to help you make the right decision. You've met the girl that you feel you want to spend the rest of your life with. You propose, and she says yes. The problem that you don't realize is, you don't really know her. You've only been together 2-3 months, you work, she works you see each other every night for a couple hours, but how well do you REALLY know her? Before you go to the store, spend your hard earned money on a ring, and get down on one knee, pull back on the e-brake and do a reality check. I have seen too many guys pull the trigger WAY too fast, and what's worse is no one jumped in to make sure he knew what it was he was doing. What's her favorite color? Well you probably know that, that's easy. Have you talked about what she wants to do with her future? Does she want a career? Do you want children and she not want children or vice versa? Have you sat down and had talks about life and what your individual and mutual goals in them are? Do any of them conflict? If so, are they things that either of you are willing to compromise on? You're talking about the rest of your lives here. Falling in love is NOT the reason to get married, it's the reason to sit down and have these heart felt discussions with the woman you love and find out if marriage is going to work for you on paper. If it works on paper, then go for it, otherwise don't, it's not even worth continuing...

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Subject :Re:Proposal? Should you really be considering it?.. 06-02-2009 10:33

Jeff

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Hey thenetimp-

I think we still need to work out some of the kinks in this Forum. (It's obviously still a work in progress.) Did you mean for your post to go somewhere else? Not sure who you're replying to, although you raise some pretty good points to an invisible foe.

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Subject :Re:Re:Proposal? Should you really be considering it?.. 06-02-2009 13:12

thenetimp

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Hi Jeff,

It's in the right place. I was starting a thread. Kind of trying to get guys to think before the propose. I have a friend who recently got married (within 12months) and is already divorced, trying to stop and make people think before they make the plunge. ;-) It is exactly where I meant it to be posted so we are all set.

[Jeff 06-02-2009 10:33:19]:

Hey thenetimp- I think we still need to work out some of the kinks in this Forum. (It's obviously still a work in progress.) Did you mean for your post to go somewhere else? Not sure who you're replying to, although you raise some pretty good points to an invisible foe.

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Subject :Re:Proposal? Should you really be considering it?.. 05-12-2010 12:09

aargalian

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Hi, I’m part of the production team for a groundbreaking new, talk show pilot focusing on relationships/dating/marriage/etc. We’re looking for enthusiastic singles/couples to discuss: constant texting/cell use ruining a relationship or looking to propose your boyfriend/girlfriend? 1-Know someone who's addicted to texting/cell use? 2-Are you male/female in a relationship ready to propose? A new, syndicated show hosted by a nationally known matchmaker wants to hear from you, please contact.
aargalian@yahoo.com
818-972-8858 office

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